There are a lot of reasons we pursue love and marriage. Many revolve around our top 10 lists. Is he cute? Is she funny? Will he take care of me? Is she pretty? While these are important, it’s not everything. In Ephesians 5:25-27 there is a fascinating idea that husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the church. It goes on to say that Jesus loved the church, gave up his life for her to make her holy, clean, washed, and glorious. So…connecting the dots, if we are also to love our wives as Jesus loved the church, then we are also to give up our lives for her, to make her more beautiful than ever and present her to God when our time is done here on earth.
Wow! What an incredible responsibility we have been entrusted with our spouses! The reality is we are not finished products. With time, we learn to love, to develop our faith, and to take steps in maturity.
So whatever season of life we are in at the moment, what if we started asking a different set of questions? What if instead of asking what I want in relationships, we would instead be asking how we can be a part of this kingdom initiatve to make beautiful those entrusted to us. May we have the desire to fight for our marriages. May we learn to love others as Jesus loved them. May we help restore beauty beginning with those closest to us.